![]() Discounting the Positive: "Insisting that your good qualities or the positive comments of others don't count or aren't genuine." Example: your friend tells you how beautiful you are, but you think she's just being nice.Mental Filtering: "Thinking only about this or that flaw or error you might have made and overlooking all the positives in your life." Maybe you had a great yoga class but you fell out of your Half Moon Pose for a moment, and you only focused on that moment, discounting your awesome Tripod Headstand!.Burns listed some of the many distortions in this type of thinking - he goes in depth with each of these in his book, Feeling Good. These sneaky, damaging, self-sabotaging thoughts come in tons of forms. ![]() How does this happen? Distorted thinking! The thing is, there isn't just one type of distorted thoughts. Sounds awful, right? But it may be happening to you, too. she rebuffed her husband's attempts and her parents' attempts to reassure her that she was still beautiful." "Although the wound healed beautifully and the scar was virtually invisible, she became convinced she had an ugly scar on her nose and that anybody who saw her would be immediately disgusted. "She was a beautiful and talented electrical engineer who became severely depressed and anxious after she got a gash on her nose during a minor earthquake," he told POPSUGAR. Burns described his treatment of a woman with a very severe case of this cognitive distortion as it relates to body image, known as Body Dysmorphic Disorder, and how he helped her "recover completely after half a dozen therapy sessions" by identifying the categories of distorted thoughts and challenging them. This is a really interesting topic for me and I’m working a lot on myself to improve my self awareness and personal development.Dr. This is a hard topic to talk about because I feel there is a lot of Shame attached to it, the shame of reflecting on the thoughts that you hope someone has a set back so you don’t feel so inferior. So this has been going on although my life and caused a lot of low self esteem and resentment. But reflecting on this now as I feel it’s consuming me I realise it’s people who I have in the past and now come into contact with that trigger me to feel inferior and because I feel they have things easier (my perception) and that pain comes when I feel I compare myself with others. At the minute it’s my brother inlaw who has copied aspects of our life and done better. I myself have realised that I struggle a lot with this and have noticed that it’s not exclusive to one person who triggers it in me. I wonder if you could do a podcast on how to help someone who struggles with envy. ![]() Burns also describes the powerful and painful impact of his own negative thoughts when he was a young psychiatric in training and he received a stinging criticism from his supervisor, Dr. You may be surprised to find out what happened!ĭr. Burns stumbled across an elderly man about to be hit by a train. Isn’t it true that you’d feel terrified, and the event would cause your terror, even without having time to put a negative thought in your head?” The young man argued that when something horrible happens, the event itself can upset you, and asked, “Let’s say you’re trapped on a railroad track a a train is coming. Burns describes a challenge he received in a thoughtful letter from a fan shortly after his book, Feeling Good, was published. When you change the way you THINK, you can change the way you feel.ĭr.In fact, depression is the world’s oldest con. When you’re depressed or anxious, the negative thoughts that trigger your distress, like “ I’m no good,” or “ Things will never change,” are distorted or illogical.In fact, our thoughts, or “cognitions,” create all of our emotions, positive and negative. Negative feelings, like depression, anxiety, and anger, do not result from what happens to us, but rather from our thoughts about what’s happening.Burns describes the three basic principles of what has been called “cognitive therapy:”
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